tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32669046.post6057547688829721180..comments2023-04-01T15:23:35.778+01:00Comments on De-blog: Pride - an introvert's contribution #LGBTQIA #pridemonthDebbie McGowanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18238044171968552477noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32669046.post-90185082543362619762017-06-19T14:56:16.430+01:002017-06-19T14:56:16.430+01:00Oh, I hope I didn't come across as suggesting ...Oh, I hope I didn't come across as suggesting you'd done anything wrong including poly. Lots of LGBT+ people *are* poly, so in that sense, it's good to include everyone. I didn't realize until reading that book that straight poly folk were so viciously -phobic. But really, I think for me it's a lot about straight people trying to wiggle their way in and make it all about them. In fairness, I do think straight poly families face discrimination. But it's definitely not the same thing. I've seen much the same with kink and BDSM.<br /><br />I'm not sure what the answer is on the letters or how many or how to write them. I've seen new ones, like SAGA, MOGAI, GSRM. None have caught on widespread. I'm resigned to never resolving this one, unfortunately.<br /><br />Oooooh...more of our lovely redhead will tide me over, I think. :)AM Leibowitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209724829228883552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32669046.post-89003498656339296932017-06-19T14:23:25.414+01:002017-06-19T14:23:25.414+01:00I must admit, I was surprised that most places def...I must admit, I was surprised that most places defining the acronym included 'poly' in there, so I had to make a judgement call on it, and being monogamous, I went on the side of cautious inclusion.<br /><br />I also must confess that Chris in Champagne is the worst kind of cheating scumbag, but I think there is a lot of discussion needed about polyamory and the importance of consent and communication - not something I realised at the time I wrote the novel (or, in fact, at the time we wrote the stage play).<br /><br />LGBT+ seems neater - and maybe even a way to harness the existing political oomph?<br /><br />LOL at your capital E Expectations. :D The glorious redhead is giving me a terribly hard time (I'm up to a scene in To Be Sure where she makes an appearance). Some of the other characters...I'm not sure if they're identifiable on-page as being LGBT+, and of course, those het poly ppl...see above (that could get recursive) - I totally take your point.<br /><br />Lastly (in the longest reply in the world), thank you - to your daughter, and to you for commenting, and also for what you said about Will. :)Debbie McGowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18238044171968552477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32669046.post-13153771649460916442017-06-19T14:06:54.501+01:002017-06-19T14:06:54.501+01:00So, my thoughts (because I can't resist sharin...So, my thoughts (because I can't resist sharing them, LOL):<br /><br />My kid says she's fine with "LGBT+" or "LGBTQ+" and prefers not having a string of more letters. But the + is very important to her because it includes her. So she doesn't feel like a tack-on, for whatever that's worth. But she's only one person, so I don't know.<br /><br />I dislike adding P = poly because too many cishet poly folks think it means them...and they're often ragingly homophobic/biphobic. I read a book last year that I wish I had in print so I could hurl it through a window, or possibly straight at the author's head. It was a homophobic, biphobic piece of garbage. So yeah, people like her don't belong. And I'm touchy because a lot of people think that a straight poly person is way more "queer" than I am, with my monogamous relationship that looks het and includes kids (and the suburbs with our cat and dog).<br /><br />That's quite a list! I don't think I knew all of those. Since it's on the list (and therefore already spoiled), I'll just say Will's coming out scene was my favorite ever. It was very sweet and 100% perfect. As for the rest...well. You know this means I have Expectations for the next HBTC book, right? LOL.AM Leibowitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209724829228883552noreply@blogger.com